I’m sure everyone has heard about the recent developments regarding the recent developments around the Canadian government’s recognition of same-sex marriages for citizens of countries that do not recognize same-sex marriage. While much of the internet has been abuzz in the last while regarding this, and my own church weighed in predictably:
“The legitimacy of the love expressed in the covenant of marriage is not dependent on where a couple lives,” says the church’s Moderator, Mardi Tindal. “Canada recognizes same-sex marriage in its legislation, and therefore, all such marriages that are duly licensed should be considered legitimate.”
and further:
She explains that many United Church ministers have officiated in good faith at weddings for same-sex couples, providing a spiritual blessing to a legal commitment. It would be a significant disappointment, not only to the couples involved but also to the ministers who have performed these marriage ceremonies, to be told that some of these marriages are not valid.
Now, I have always been and continue to be for legal same-sex civil marriages for a variety of reasons. At the same time, I don’t think that the state sanctioning a marriage determines its legitimacy, as the Moderator suggested. If we are talking about the legal contract and all the benefits and obligations between two people that our state refers to as “marriage,” then yes it does. If we are talking about the covenantal relationship (in some churches sacramental relationship) established in fidelity for the purposes of growth and nurture of two individuals and their families towards living in to the reign of God in the present, then no, state sanction does not determine legitimacy.
Perhaps, though it is our own fault, and becomes somewhat true in the sense that the church has been far too lax in allowing its “licensing” of marriages through ministers to become an extension of Canadian public services and that the vast majority of marriages (hetero and homosexual) have been performed by those ministers fall outside the community and accountability of the church. You want the people who hire you to get what they paid for, I suppose–and it doesn’t count as a “marriage” without the legally binding administrative contract that is recognized in a court of law and child custody hearings.
Perhaps this is just another sign that the church needs to get out of its Christendom mentality (or marriage, if you will) of conflating the kingdom of this world (i.e. the Empire) with the church. Are these marriages really invalid?


